Be You

Be You

Someone has said the difference between religion and relationship is religion demands we follow a set of rules, while relationship asks we fall in love with the Creator.  As Christians, sometimes we emphasize too much what we should NOT do.  We quote verses like “flee from evil” (Psalm 37), rather than focusing on who we are and what we need to do to strengthen our relationship with God.  Therein lies the tension: doing vs being.

I believe we need to adjust our strategy by not focusing as much on the “don’ts” of Christianity.  Emphasizing who we are and our identity will help us grow into a better version of who God sees us become.

You see, you don’t become a better basketball player by staying away from football and baseball.  You become a better basketball player by practicing your shot, increasing your stamina, running ‘suicides’ and spending time in the weight room.

It's not just about running from evil. When we're more in love with God, everything else pales in comparison. Click To Tweet

If we desire to become a better version of us and achieve our God given potential, we need to focus on developing those areas that will bring us closer to the heart of God.

It’s not just about running from evil. When we’re more in love with God, everything else pales in comparison. As a result, we will not desire what causes us to walk away from God.

So what are some of the areas we should work on, so we can be a better “me”?

Understanding you are a son and a daughter

No, you are not a casualty, an accident or just a church goer.  The concept of divine sonship is key to our spiritual growth and realization of who we are and what our position is in God.

A sense of belonging is one of the greatest human needs and as a believer, one that has the potential to positively impact not only our spiritual condition, but also our social and psychological stability.

The concept of divine sonship is key to our spiritual growth and realization of who we are and what our position is in God. Click To Tweet

I usually do not like to label people…like “he’s an introvert or she’s an extrovert” etc..but when it comes to who we are in God, the label of son or daughter is key.

You were created to be in fellowship with God

The movie Gladiator is one of my all time favorite movies. In one of the first scenes, Maximus commander of the Emperor’s armies is speaking to his men just before entering battle and says: “Brothers, what we do in life… echoes in eternity.”

We were created to fellowship with God!  He speaks to each of us in the pages of His Word as well as in our hearts and we do well to cultivate our relationship and sensitivity to His voice.  Worshipping and honoring God on this side of our existence is important to our growth. What we do in this life, will likewise matter in eternity.

You are salt and light

“Preach the Gospel at all times and if necessary use words.”  This phrase is commonly attributed to Saint Francis of Assisi, highlighting the power of how we live our lives and the message it sends.

Words are but one vehicle to explain the goodness of God to people, however our life example can be the best message ever preached,   Our words have the power to spread the flavor of the Lord’s goodness and our actions solidify that reality with practical example.

Who we are in this case is directly related to our actions.  We are light, therefore we shine.  We are salt, therefore we flavor.

Performance based living is a trap – you approval comes from God

One of the negative outcomes of rejection is a performance based existence.  For a number of years I collaborated in church activity to use my talent for God, but also to prove my value and worth to my leaders. Doing for the sake of receiving praise from your leaders is falling into the performance based living trap.  This mindset is counterproductive to our spiritual growth and wellbeing.

Receiving indifference or lack of approval from a leader can be interpreted as we are not good enough and ultimately a rejection of our worth and value. We need to remember our approval comes from the Lord. It is freeing to serve with joy and pleasure regardless of whether we receive a well done or not.  We need to be self aware of why we are doing what we do. Ultimately our approval comes from the Lord and it is Him we should be aiming to please.

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It is so important to have a clear understanding of who we are and to work with God to strengthen our identity. Based on the finished work of Christ on the cross, the price has been paid, our identity should be solidified in the knowledge that the Father loves us and accepts us as we are.

We can struggle and perform so hard for the sake of pleasing mere humans.  We work on a list of don’ts in hopes God will be pleased with us.  But it is not in the don’ts that we find God, it is in BEing and BEcoming the men and women He established us to be, before the very foundation of the world.  BE YOU!


Davide Colletta

Davide Colletta

Davide was born and raised in Taranto, Italy. He has a background in pastoral and worship ministry and presently works at IBM.

Davide has a unique communication style that has given him a platform in the marketplace to use his “get the job done” skill set.God has instilled in Davide a passion to equip the body of Christ through teaching, mentoring and speaking life through experience and wisdom of years.He is deeply passionate about pursuing and cultivating the presence of God. He currently lives with his wife of 31 years, Lois in Charlotte, NC. They have 3 amazing children with their married spouses.
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