Dealing with a Broken Heart

Dealing with a Broken Heart

I’m a child of the 70s and of course the 70s would not be what it is without the iconic group The Bee Gees. Many people remember “Stayin’ Alive” but the lyric from one of their ballads is more pertinent to my topic. Remember their song “How Can You Mend a Broken Heart?”

The heart is one of the smaller members of our physical body but the Bible gives it great significance since it is the key component of our spiritual make up. There are dozens of verses like:

“Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart.”
“Above all else, guard your heart.”
“The heart is deceitful above all things, who can understand it.”
“Create in me a pure heart, oh God.”
“And the peace of God…will guard your hearts…”
“Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.”
“I will praise you, oh Lord, with all my heart.”
“Blessed are the pure in heart.”

A healthy and thriving heart can lead to contentment. Honestly, I find when my heart is satisfied, I am not seeking for pleasure in the wrong places, and my existence is more fulfilled.  Don’t you agree?

Dealing with the reality of a broken heart is a painful experience we all go through at one point or another in our lives.  I know I have faced situations and dealt with circumstances in my life that left me feeling like I had a huge gaping hole in the middle of my heart and…honestly it hurt real bad.  It’s not the kind of pain that may cause you to wince; it’s the kind of pain that plagues the mind and emotions; and heart pain can in so many ways feel like real physical pain.

I am certainly not the only one who has ever experienced a broken heart. I’ve spoken with many who feel like their world has been turned upside down and their heart shattered into pieces.

Sadly, my problem, and I suspect yours too, is that I can waste effort looking for things that only give temporary satisfaction. Why do I gravitate to things that make me feel good for a just a bit?  A band-aid will not heal a 5- inch deep wound and any temporary fun, money, toys or other “band-aids” will ever truly fill the void in our hearts. A temporary fix will only ease our pain and disillusionment for a time. If you have tried this and no success, there is hope!  Psalm: 147:3 says that “He (God) heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” God desires to heal the wounds of our hearts, those deep cuts that hurt like heck when touched; and the wounds that no one knows about, the secrets of our hearts that need to be spoken and exposed to God so He can restore peace.

So where do we start?  Below are some simple initial steps to take.  There are no quick fixes for dealing with issues of the heart, but hopefully these steps can propel us over the starting line so we can get on the road to healing.

1) Admit we are hurt and need healing.
Pretty simple and straight forward right?  No magical formulas, but simplicity can become hardship if not embraced in earnest.  We need no longer hide behind a smile, a joke or whatever it is that we do, but to be honest, embrace our faults and pain and allow God to change our hearts.

2) Admit our past/failed attempts.
Our ways are not God’s ways, statement of the year 😉
Our methods are limited at best, but we serve a God who is resourceful and limitless. We can either blame ourselves and the world over past mistakes and failures or we can give God the reins of our lives, forgive ourselves and trust in His power.

3) Seek the healer of broken hearts.
This does not minimize the importance of a counselor, but simply highlights God’s ability to deal with the worst of situation that caused us a broken heart.  He just has a way with it.  Intimacy (into-me-see) is God’s specialty.  Let’s stop pretending and seek the Healer of broken hearts.

This is not an overnight process and not all roads/ways will “lead to Rome” but if we commit to the process and allow God full access to our hearts, we will witness the miracle of transformation as He puts the pieces back together and mends our brokenness.

Have we given God access to every secret room of our heart?  Can we commit to giving God the keys, access with no barred rooms and “do not disturb” signs on the handles?  He wants to be the Lord of all, every area, every secret, every hurt and pain you may be facing today.  You don’t have to do this on your own, trust someone and go to The One who can mend your heart and give you peace like you’ve never know.


Davide Colletta

Davide Colletta

Davide was born and raised in Taranto, Italy. He has a background in pastoral and worship ministry and presently works at IBM.

Davide has a unique communication style that has given him a platform in the marketplace to use his “get the job done” skill set.God has instilled in Davide a passion to equip the body of Christ through teaching, mentoring and speaking life through experience and wisdom of years.He is deeply passionate about pursuing and cultivating the presence of God. He currently lives with his wife of 31 years, Lois in Charlotte, NC. They have 3 amazing children with their married spouses.
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