I’m usually pretty handy and enjoy fixing things that need minor repair. There’s not much some glue, a hammer or duct tape can’t fix; although I must admit, I am not so good with mechanics and wish I were.
My general tendency is to be self-sufficient and fix broken things that can be fixed. There are, however, some things that I just can’t fix with duct tape, a hammer or glue. Not everything has an immediate answer and I admit that bothers me at times. Furthermore, I noticed that my “Mr. Know It All and Jack of All Trades” attitude can get in the way and bring offense where relationships are involved.
Relationships carry some level of complexity and with my bent to speak my mind and make a solution sound easy, this can hurt people. How do I know? Others have done it with me, and perhaps as you are reading this, I may have done the same with you.
Sometimes preachers can make it all sound so easy to fix when making a good preaching point and a nice tweetable 140 word sentence. In reality, things can be very different from how they play out in reality.
On the other hand, expecting a counselor, Pastor or group leader to give you the answers you’re looking for, may not necessarily give you what you need to fix a broken relationship or heal a broken heart.
Some issues require specialized skill. For instance, don’t ask me to fix that broken run down deck. That requires carpenter skills I do not possess. Bruised hearts, broken relationships and hurt emotions require the help of a higher power. An old friend who was a general contractor used this catchy and truthful saying: “We can fix anything, except the break of day and a broken heart.” That is true!
The Bible reminds us that we need to commit our ways to God and not trust in our own understanding, plans, methods or resolution skills. Sometimes what we are seeking to hear is not what we need to hear. I am not underestimating the importance of an advisor, life coach or therapist; we have close friends who are gifted as great counselors and spiritual advisors. If the intent, however, is to find release for a choice already made, the best of counselors is not going to give you the peace of mind you are looking for.
I don’t mean to over spiritualize, but I really believe that God can mend our broken hearts, restore situations that are above our ability to fix. Who knows us better than our maker? He can and will move mountains to show us His love and grace we don’t deserve.
If you are finding yourself at the end of your rope, maybe just lay down your hammer and nails and make room for Jesus. He knows and understands and has the power to intervene on your behalf. He was a carpenter and knows how to get the job done.
Here are some key verses to strengthen us to move forward and not give into our humanistic approach, anxiety and fear.
ADMIT SOME ISSUES ARE BEYOND YOU
Matthew 19:26: “Jesus looked at them and said, ‘This is something that people cannot do. But God can do anything.’”
1 Peter 5:6-7: “So be humble under God’s powerful hand. Then he will lift you up when the right time comes. Give all your worries to him, because he cares for you.”
TAKE YOUR PEACE
Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me all of you who are tired from the heavy burden you have been forced to carry. I will give you rest. Accept my teaching. Learn from me. I am gentle and humble in spirit. And you will be able to get some rest. Yes, the teaching that I ask you to accept is easy. The load I give you to carry is light.”
GOD’S PLANS ARE BETTER THAN YOURS
Jeremiah 29:11: “I say this because I know the plans that I have for you.” This message is from the Lord. “I have good plans for you. I don’t plan to hurt you. I plan to give you hope and a good future.”
Isaiah 14:24: “The Lord All-Powerful made this promise: “This will happen exactly as I meant for it to happen. It will happen just the way I planned.”
GOD WILL DO WHAT HE SAYS
Isaiah 55:8-11: “The Lord says, ‘My thoughts are not like yours. Your ways are not like mine. Just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways, and my thoughts are higher than your thoughts. Rain and snow fall from the sky and don’t return until they have watered the ground. Then the ground causes the plants to sprout and grow, and they produce seeds for the farmer and food for people to eat. In the same way, my words leave my mouth, and they don’t come back without results. My words make the things happen that I want to happen. They succeed in doing what I send them to do.'”
DON’T GIVE INTO FEAR AND ANXIETY
Matthew 6:34: “So don’t worry about tomorrow. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Tomorrow will have its own worries.”
Isaiah 41:10: “Don’t worry—I am with you. Don’t be afraid—I am your God. I will make you strong and help you. I will support you with my right hand that brings victory.”
God’s methods and plans are better than ours. What concerns and worries are you trying to fix that you can hand over to the Lord? Take inventory and let the Word of God breathe life.
Davide has a unique communication style that has given him a platform in the marketplace to use his “get the job done” skill set.God has instilled in Davide a passion to equip the body of Christ through teaching, mentoring and speaking life through experience and wisdom of years.He is deeply passionate about pursuing and cultivating the presence of God. He currently lives with his wife of 31 years, Lois in Charlotte, NC. They have 3 amazing children with their married spouses.