It’s OK Not To Change

It’s OK Not To Change

Easter celebration (in a nutshell) is a time when we shine a spotlight on the mission of Christ to earth, taking the form of a human, living and performing amazing acts to display the heart of the Father to His children.

One can’t help but wonder what God saw in us that would cause Him to offer His Son as the sacrifice for our sins. Our good, average or bad existence will always be marred by our flaws and sin, so why does God deem us worthy of such incredible sacrifice?

Psalm 8:3-4 reminds us that “When I look at the night sky and see the work of your fingers–the moon and the stars you set in place–what are mere mortals that you should think about them, human beings that you should care for them?” (NLT)

We are special. Our personal struggles will never undo the sacrificial death of Christ on the cross.  No matter how terrible we may think we are, regardless of how bad our past may be, we were worth it, yes YOU were worth it!

Paul reminds us in Romans not to conform to the secular mindset. We should never feel superior or think we are better and not be able to relate to those who do not know Christ.  He came for all, His mission was and is all inclusive, nevertheless, we are not to lower our standards, no matter the pressure.

So how do we resist the temptation to conform?

1) Christ gave His very life for us
What else is there to say?  If Christ deemed us worthy enough to die, we need to start seeing ourselves under the lens of His love and begin to love ourselves just as we are. Being a believer should not place us on the margin of society.  We need to be ourselves and live out our belief system because we believe what the Father says and we want to be like Him.

2) Knowing who we are
We are sons and daughters of God, and if we can live as sons and daughters, that is the most powerful truth on earth.  Understanding our identity and that the Father is for us, has our back and believes in us, will cause us to become bold and strong, not arrogant and strange. Grasping this truth is life changing and will cause us to have a security that comes from the Father.

3) I love you just the way you are
How many times have you heard those words?  Aside from hearing it from Billy Joel (and I just dated myself). Unconditional love is more than just words, and although we may hear these words spoken, are they truly meant? The truth is that having our own beliefs,  standards and principles is not something we are encouraged to do.  But principle scriptures, truths that are part of us, cannot be sacrificed on the altar of conformity.  We need to stay true to ourselves, to who we are and who God is shaping us to be.

4) Embracing our differences
Each of us has strengths and weaknesses.  Some folks are soft and loving, while others may be more direct and loving. Some of us are more prone to listen and others to talk. We are no better than the other.  Approaching relationships thinking we can change people will not work. We are all on a journey.  I will not change to become your idea of who I should be and vice versa. Embracing each others differences is the safest way.

5) Finding our ‘raison d’être’
When we know who we are, it’s easier to find our ‘raison d’être’ (reason for being), our mission in life and pursue it with passion. We won’t need to look for others’ approval and we can be secure in following our dreams and purpose in life because we know whose we are.

The price has been paid. I am thankful and will choose to be secure in myself and the reason for being alive. I will chose to grab on to the truths of God’s Word, make them mine and believe that I am loved.  I will believe He has chosen me to fit into a niche created just for me. I will choose to be a blessing to those around me.

What hinders you from becoming who God has purposed you to be? Will you grab on to the truth of who God thinks you are and continue to let Him transform your very existence?

I pray you will, and to this end, it’s okay not to change.



Davide Colletta

Davide Colletta

Davide was born and raised in Taranto, Italy. He has a background in pastoral and worship ministry and presently works at IBM.

Davide has a unique communication style that has given him a platform in the marketplace to use his “get the job done” skill set.God has instilled in Davide a passion to equip the body of Christ through teaching, mentoring and speaking life through experience and wisdom of years.He is deeply passionate about pursuing and cultivating the presence of God. He currently lives with his wife of 31 years, Lois in Charlotte, NC. They have 3 amazing children with their married spouses.
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