In Part 1 of this blog (click here for Part 1) we talked about our struggle with rejection. In all likelihood, most of us have a hard time being open and vulnerable. Perhaps we are comfortable talking to God, but we still still need one another.
There is hope and there is an answer in God.
A Close Friend
Proverbs 18:24 says: “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” (NIV) Reading this verse, we see the risk of choosing unreliable friends. A close friend of good reputation, however, can be more than a brother. David and Jonathan are a great example in the Bible. Their friendship exemplifies the very level of trusted relationship we should aspire to.
Jesus and Holy Spirit can also be trusted friends. When Jesus ascended into heaven after the resurrection, He sent Holy Spirit to be our counselor and comforter. He is closer than a brother and can be the best friend we’ve always wished for. His counsel is perfect; He will never reject us and has an amazing plan for our lives that far outweighs the temporary fuzzy feeling of being tagged and liked on social media.
Here are some quick tips I recommend when faced with feelings of rejection:
1) Talk to God
Since we have Jesus who is our Advocate (1 John 2:1) before the Father, we can confidently approach His presence, speak to Him boldly (Hebrews 4:16), leave our anger, disappointment and all the emotions that rejection generates, express them to God and find forgiveness and peace in His presence.
2) Talk to the offender
Don’t settle for guess work on what people may be saying or thinking. You don’t have to be a confrontationist to speak to someone peacefully in order to tear down walls of rejection. We have the power to diffuse a bomb before it explodes.
3) Pay attention to the voices speaking
Have you noticed that angry people like to hang with angry people? Depressed people with depressed people? Negative with negative? Who are we allowing to speak into our lives? Don’t hang a “Do Not Disturb” sign over your heart. Find trusted and wise counsel and walk in peace and freedom.
4) The devil is a liar
Be aware that the devil’s job is to seek those who will listen to his lies which give him access to shape actions that alter the course of our lives. The Bible calls him the father of all lies – there is no truth in him. So why do we fall prey to his schemes? How long will we allow the devil to torment us with his lies? The choice to listen to God’s voice is ours. Let’s work harder to not allow things to fester but instead make small daily progress and see the hand of God at work in us.
5) Commit to the process
Rome was not built in a day and you will not be totally free in a day or a week for that matter. Be committed to the process, listen to wise counsel, study God’s Word and find time to get in the presence of God. Over time you will be amazed what God will do.
A Final Word
The Bible reminds us to “confess our sins to each other so that we may be healed.” (James 5:16) We can’t do this alone guys, and although offense will come at the hands (or mouths) of people, our struggle is never against flesh and blood. We must never fight each other, but understand that the enemy will look for words, actions and circumstances to cause us to go inward into emotional and physical isolation until those lies the enemy whispers will become the only thing we believe.
As believers, what should we do? We forgive, we love, and we stand up to the enemy and choose not to recoil in isolation and surrender. We are sons and daughters of God, loved and cherished. Who do you need to forgive? What lies has the enemy been whispering in your ear? Let’s choose to do what’s right and reflect the heart of our Father in heaven!
Davide has a unique communication style that has given him a platform in the marketplace to use his “get the job done” skill set.God has instilled in Davide a passion to equip the body of Christ through teaching, mentoring and speaking life through experience and wisdom of years.He is deeply passionate about pursuing and cultivating the presence of God. He currently lives with his wife of 31 years, Lois in Charlotte, NC. They have 3 amazing children with their married spouses.