A while ago someone tweeted “Prove them wrong. Do it anyway!” Did they mean do it out of spite no matter what? If no, what might they have been inferring?
Many people, yours truly included, have been affected by negative words. I remember as a high school sophomore, my English teacher told me that I would never amount to anything, probably in part due to the fact that I was a handful! Those words affected me for years and many times I felt like I never quite measured.
“THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK!”
Over the years I grew to believe those words – though at the time, I laughed them off and trivialized their impact on my life. You see, well meaning people can “curse you” with negative words, not realizing how powerful words can be. Some good advice for all is: “Let’s think before we speak!”
Sadly, not everyone is happy with our success. “Encouragers” will build us up and cheer us on, others, however, who are jealous and envious may cut us down and even stand in the way if our progress impacts their success. I truly believe we have to make up our minds not to listen to just anyone who thinks he or she has the right to tell us what they think is wrong. Do they really hold a significant place of influence that we should heed their negative words? Yes, some select people we should give this privilege, but not everyone has that right in my life.
A wise person (my wife and partner in crime) told me many years ago “Unless I’m asked for advice, I don’t give it.” I don’t always apply this and can be found guilty; yet there is great truth in that statement. You see, some seem glad to receive our advice but when things don’t pan out the way they expected, they can turn on a dime and place all the blame on our “wrong advice.” There are others who just don’t care about anybody’s opinion, they just wanna do it their way and no amount of advice or criticism will impact them.
If we are going to share our opinion, use these practical points:
- Do it with grace, the same grace God gave us when He received us, just as we were, flaws and all.
- Your experiences are not the absolute truth everyone needs to apply to their lives.
- Don’t kill anyone’s dreams and aspirations. You just don’t know who may be asking you for advice. Everyone starts small.
We do learn by trial and error and yes my mistakes have been many, but no one needs a naysayer coming along to destroy a dream or smear it with negative talk.
DON’T LISTEN TO NAYSAYERS
When David heard the insults Goliath hurled at the Israelites, he decided he would step up and fight Goliath. He had faith in a great and powerful God, but his brothers – the naysayers – told him to stay put, after all a child could not possibly defeat a giant. Right? WRONG! David did defeat Goliath, his belief was not just in his ability to whirl a stone in a sling, he believed God would allow him to win the fight. Don’t listen to naysayers.
Many said of Jesus “He is only the son of a carpenter…” in other words they did not believe he could be the son of God and the miracle worker that he showed them to be. He was after all, just the son of a carpenter. Some people may say the same about you and me, he’s just a _______ (you fill in the blank). Jesus did not allow people to define him by his profession, and neither should we. He knew who he was. He knew his identity.
We can do the same. God’s approval is paramount to our actions. It’s wise to have some trusted people who will speak into your life, but don’t allow anyone to steal your dreams and aspirations, “Prove them wrong. Do it anyway.”
Davide has a unique communication style that has given him a platform in the marketplace to use his “get the job done” skill set.God has instilled in Davide a passion to equip the body of Christ through teaching, mentoring and speaking life through experience and wisdom of years.He is deeply passionate about pursuing and cultivating the presence of God. He currently lives with his wife of 31 years, Lois in Charlotte, NC. They have 3 amazing children with their married spouses.