3 Things Humility Is Not

3 Things Humility Is Not

“But the kindness God shows is greater. As the Scripture says, “God is against the proud, but he is kind to the humble.”  James 4:6 ERV

3 Things Humility Is NotThere are a number of ways you can tackle the topic of humility, but when you do away with definitions, Hebrew and Greek word studies  and synonyms, humility in its essence is the byproduct of knowing the Father and spending time with Him.

It’s safe to say that as we grow in our walk with God and become more intimate with Him, we will tend not to think more highly of ourselves than we should.

My wife has always said that her strongest security as a woman is to know I have a solid and consistent open relationship with God. I believe that applies to men and women alike, because a healthy relationship with God makes us more like Him. It causes our hearts to become more tender and changes our perspective about life to be less about me and more about others.

Humility causes our hearts to become more tender and changes our perspective about life. Click To Tweet

A healthy relationship with the Father tempers us.

I have experienced this in my personal life; when I learn to love and be loved by God. This relationship allows me to assume a gentleness and a grace that transcends my usual human capabilities, because it is deposited by God in my heart, as an outcome of my healthy connection to Him.

Here are just a few meditations about humility God has been highlighting in my life:

To be humble does not mean to look meek while showing off your actions and activity

I have heard some make remarks about their humility and then wonder how genuine is it for someone to pat themselves on the back regarding their humility?  I think that kind of defeats the purpose. The truth is, that some try to hide their pride by acting in a way that causes them to “look” humble, when in reality their desire is really to be noticed.

Jesus said that for people who behave in such a way publicly, they receive their reward through the attention and applause they receive, but miss out on what God has for them. (Matthew 6:2)

To be humble doesn’t mean you have to be weak

God has given us the tools we need to live with confidence. Our confidence should not be based on our abilities, but God’s power inside of us. Proud individuals are usually more interested in bringing attention to their cause — not God’s or helping others.

Our key verse mentioned at the top, reminds us that God raises the humble to new heights, not the proud. God will open doors as we demonstrate strength in humility. Interestingly enough lack of humility, therefore, is weakness.

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To be humble doesn’t mean being quiet or isolated

Isolation can be a form of pride because we turn inwardly and focus on “me” alone, “my” issues, “my” challenges and “my” lacks. Isolation can be a trap of the devil to keep us captive to negativism and a slave to self-pity, causing us to feel defeated and alone.  Isolation is not humility, it is a scheme of the devil to keep us in chains and in this context, it is false humility.

Isolation can be a trap of the devil to keep us captive to negativism and a slave to self-pity. Click To Tweet

God’s desire for us it to understand that our lives should be a reflection of who He is. God so loved that He gave His very best, Jesus. He did not isolate Himself from the rest of the universe, and neither should we from the rest of humanity, but be humble servants.
God is kind and gracious to the humble. Humility, birthed from a healthy relationship with our heavenly Father, is something we need to constantly be working on; the difference will be visible when we do.

The opposite of humility is pride. True humility stems from a relationship with the Father centered on His love and approval toward us. Pride will keep us away from God just as it did Lucifer who aspired to be like God and was driven away. Pride that thinks only of oneself will never bring lasting reward, but instead drive others away.

True humility stems from a relationship with the Father centered on His love and approval toward us. Click To Tweet

What struggles in your life have been caused by pride, that humility could have prevented?  If you’re like me, you are thinking of many situations caused by selfishness and pride that may have caused unnecessary pain in your life.

The good news is that God forgives, forgets and restores. He restores broken relationships that resulted from pride. What the devil intended for evil, God can turn around for our ultimate good. Humility is the way to a spiritually and emotionally healthier “me.”

I read this prayer some time ago and jotted it down because of the honestly behind it. It is called A Private Litany of Humility,” and it is a prayer attributed to Rafael Cardinal Merry Del Val (1865-1930). Below is a portion of that prayer:

From the desire of being praised, deliver me, Jesus.
From the desire of being honored, deliver me, Jesus.
From the desire of being preferred, deliver me, Jesus.
From the desire of being consulted, deliver me, Jesus.
From the desire of being approved, deliver me, Jesus.
From the desire of comfort and ease, deliver me, Jesus.

May this prayer become the desire of our hearts.

DC

Davide Colletta

Davide Colletta

Davide was born and raised in Taranto, Italy. He has a background in pastoral and worship ministry and presently works at IBM.

Davide has a unique communication style that has given him a platform in the marketplace to use his “get the job done” skill set.God has instilled in Davide a passion to equip the body of Christ through teaching, mentoring and speaking life through experience and wisdom of years.He is deeply passionate about pursuing and cultivating the presence of God. He currently lives with his wife of 31 years, Lois in Charlotte, NC. They have 3 amazing children with their married spouses.
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